The Cope Toolkits
The decision is already made. Just reach for it.
On the heaviest days, deciding what to do next is one thing too many.
I built the Cope Toolkits for those days. Five digital toolkits — each one designed for a specific moment in the fertility journey. The decision about what to do is already made. On the days when your brain has nothing left, you are exhausted by it. You just open a toolkit for the moment you're in, and start.
It's not designed as a programme. Not something you have to commit to or finish. Just something that's there when you need it.
Where it came from
During the heaviest days of my own seven-year fertility journey, I built a box.
I filled it with things to do on the hardest days. Cards already chosen, decisions already made — so that when the fear set in and I couldn't think straight, I just had to reach for something. Not a plan. Not a programme. Just the next small thing, already decided.
There were days were the weight of the anxiety was too much to bear and I lay on the floor. My husband called them 'floor parties', I didn't mind the term, it provided a label for what I was going through. The moments when the weight of it was so heavy I couldn't get up.
But what I would have wished for, is that he came back back to pick me up. We've reflected on this and recongised The Partner Pack would have helped us both in this situation.
The box is what I reached for on those heaviest of days. That box became the Cope Toolkits.
I couldn't decide what to have for lunch. Not because I wasn't hungry. Because my nervous system had been in a heightened state for so long that even small decisions felt impossible.
Find your moment
Which one is for where you are right now?
The two-week wait is a time-based challenge as much as anything else. Too much of it. Nothing to fill it. The Sunday afternoon that will not end. I designed these cards for the specific exhaustion of that waiting in-between — things to do with twenty minutes, an afternoon, or 3am when you're awake and the silence is too loud.
Get this toolkit →This isn't about moving forward. It's not about what comes next. But for the immediate aftermath — the hours before you can think about it properly. Cards that hold you where you are, without trying to move you anywhere.
Get this toolkit →Whether to try again. Whether to change direction. Whether to stop. Cards that help you think when thinking feels impossible — without pushing you in any direction. No right answer implied. Just space to find yours.
Get this toolkit →Hope comes and goes — sometimes within the same hour, minute, second. This toolkit is for the person who has been in this for years and is still here. I here you. Cards that don't offer miracle stories. Just honest company, and something to reach for on the days when the weight of it is, still exhausting and hard to get through.
Get this toolkit →Not tied to a specific moment in treatment. Thirty cards across four weeks — for grounding, connection, processing, and being with something hard. This is the only toolkit designed to work in order and start a month with intention, or open one when you need it. There's no requirement to finish.
Get this toolkit →How it works
Three steps. That's it.
Choose your moment
Pick the toolkit that fits where you are right now. If you're not sure, you have access to all of them. The journey moves and these are designed to move with you.
Open the web app
Your toolkits are found in the C&C web app. A digital resource for whenever you need to reach for them. Simply save the App icon to your phone and you're good to go.
Just reach for it
Open a card when you need one. There's no order to follow, no streak to maintain, nothing to complete if you don't want to. I made some decisions, so you don't have to.
Not sure which one you need?
You don't need to know
The fertility journey moves, with its ebbs and flows. What you need today is not always what you'll need tomorrow. These toolkits have been designed for when you need them. This is just the beginning, there are more to come.
Subscribe today from £15/monthWhat this is — and what it isn't
What it is
- Something to reach for on the days when everything else feels like too much.
- A set of decisions already made — so you don't have to make them.
- Built from the inside of the experience. Not theory.
- Yours to keep and return to at any point in the journey.
- A digital resource. Immediate. No waiting.
What it isn't
- A programme. There's no daily requirement, no streak to maintain, no progress bar.
- Therapy or medical advice.
- A cure for the weight of this.
- Something you have to finish.
- Something that promises an outcome.
I made these from my own experience. Something to reach for. On the days when everything else is too much.